Friday, July 04, 2008

In-Dependency

Happy Fifth Anniversary, dear sweet husband. I love you immensely, and love our roller coaster life we have together!

Happy birthday, America! You are still quite young, and have many, many lessons to learn ahead of you. Please be considerate and flexible in your thinking.

Five years ago, Paul and I decided to lose our independence on Independence Day. With a week's planning, we bought a dress for me, rented a kilt for Paul, booked a flight and a room, and happily followed our hearts to Vegas to elope. It was all very romantic, very low stress and TONS of FUN!!!

Paul and I consider ourselves a team. We work together to get things done. I can't tell you how much I depend on that ideal. Knowing he is there to help out with anything, whether it be changing diapers, cleaning up vomit, or listening to me vent, is worth more to me than all the money and desirable tangibles the world has ever known.

Too often we are told it is not good to be dependent on anyone or anything. I like that Paul and I depend on each other, that we can count on each other to help out. Obviously, Laurel and Ian being wee tots depend on us to provide them with food, shelter, and love. That dependency is what makes us a family. We rely on one another to help out. The burden of chores, the loving and caring, should not rest on one person, but all of us. It is much easier to tackle those undesirable tasks when there is someone by your side.

Will someone always be there for assistance? No, that would be impossible. But knowing later someone will listen to you vent about loathsome tasks is quite comforting.

To Paul I must say, thank you. Thank you for always listening. Thank you for lending a hand when you're home. Thank you for numerous back and feet rubs. Thank you for encouraging me to rest when dog tired and I don't know better. Thank you for ignoring the irritable side of me. Thank you for letting me make mistakes and learn from them. Thank you for encouraging me to go out and have fun with my friends. Thank you for Ian and Laurel. Thank you for letting me depend upon you. Thank you for journeying through life with me.

12 comments:

Guinevere Meadow said...

What a handsome couple you make!

Happy anniversary!

Paul said...

Dearest Wife,

I'm the lucky one. I can't believe it's already been five years, because I swear we're still on the honeymoon (although with a couple of extra--and noisy--passengers).

You're the best friend, partner, co-conspirator, wife, and mother a husband/father could ask for.

Happy Anniversary, my love. You get more beautiful every day.

Stella said...

Wow! Time Flies....Happy Anniversary you two! I hope you enjoyed your day.

Lady M said...

Happy Anniversary! Congratulations on some pretty terrific things - your marriage, partnership, and two cute kids.

Bloggy Mama said...

Happy Happy Anniversary!!! Blessings on you both and your family!

Lauren@Baseballs&Bows said...

I hope your anniversary was wonderful!

phonemom said...

Happy Anniversary! I hope that you enjoyed your day. You can tell from your comments that you obviously still enjoy each other. You're very lucky to have a wonderful partner and that you can both depend on one another. Cheers!

Damselfly said...

Wow, happy anniversary! You guys are so cute.

Did you really elope with him in a kilt? I'm impressed. Sounds like that took a little planning....?

MaryP said...

Happy Anniversary! The word I like to describe the balancing and supporting a couple does is "inter-dependency". It's not that you're not strong people on your own, but you know how to work together for even greater strength.

So... what do they wear under those things? (Oh, come on! You knew someone had to ask!)

Actually, I've been to Scotland. I know -- not from direct experience! -- what they wear. (Or don't...)

Sherri said...

What a sweet post! Happy anniversary to you!!

Pendullum said...

Happy Happy Anniversary to a beautiful, beautiful couple!

The Domesticator said...

Aww... how cute!!! I love the comment he left as well.

Congratulations to you both.